This post is dedicated to the broken hearted, the soft-hearted, the meek and the weak… It is from the heart to the heart. If you are in pain, I urge you to say Alhamdulillahi ala kulli haal – we praise and thank Allah in every situation. With eyes filled with tears, look toward your Rabb and say with sincerity ‘Alhamdulillahi ala kulli haal’.
This is the first step in knowing and understanding the mercy of your Lord. Whatever you’re going through, know that this was never meant to miss you. This trial or test that you’re experiencing right now has already been ordained over billions of years ago (even before the universe was created). The pen is dry, so don’t despair. If Allah has decreed this upon you, know that you have the strength to overcome it. Allah does not burden a soul more than it can bear.
Whenever you feel sad, I invite you to read Surah Duha (the 93rd surah).. This is a Surah that was revealed to console our dear beloved nabi-e-kareem sallallahu alaihi wasallam (sal) at a time when he was feeling a similar emotion to what you’re feeling right now. The context to the surah was that Allah (swt) withheld waheeh (revelation) for a period of time which gave the unbelievers enough time to taunt and hurl abuse at our nabi (sal). The wife of Abu Lahab who was an Aunt of our Holy Prophet (sal) and whose house adjoined his said ”It appears your satan has forsaken you.” Nauzhubillah!
The taunting of the people our Nabi (sal) can bear, but the withholding of revelation from Allah distressed him. Many thoughts came to his mubarak mind that made him extremely sorrowful. In all the chaos, the struggle and the strife, his only source of strength was Allah. When revelation was delayed, our Nabi felt sad and alone. Does this situation somehow sound familiar to you? Do you feel alone, lost and hopeless? Sometimes do you feel as though Allah hates you or that He may be angry with you?
My dearest reader, Allah Rabbul Izzathi wal Jalal consoled our Nabi (sal), and through him, all of us..
It’s not all doom and gloom.. There is sunshine, there is light, there is beauty. In other words, look at the bright-side dear brother/sister*.
2. And by the night when it is still (or darkens)
Is your worrying and sadness keeping you from falling asleep at night? Know that when the night is still or at its darkest, that’s when you will find Allah closest to you, so despair not*.
3. Your Lord has neither forsaken you nor hated you.
Do you think Allah hates you? Do you think that what you’re going through is somehow a punishment? Know that Allah does not hate His servants nor does He ever forsake those who seek Him.*
4. And indeed the Hereafter is better for you than the present (life of this world).
Whatever you’re going through, know that it is very brief. The nature of this world is that it is temporary. This will pass. Soon this too shall pass. But the life of the hereafter is eternal. Indeed, rejoice that the hereafter is far more greater than what you can imagine, so despair not and don’t be sad!*
5. And very soon your Lord will give you, and you will be pleased.
Be patient my dearest brother/sister, very soon Allah will replace your sorrow with good; and He promises you that you will be satisfied with what He gives you. And the promise of Allah is true!*
6. Did He not find you an orphan and give you shelter and care?
Dear reader, notice how the first 5 verses of this beautiful surah is about hope? It’s not all doom and gloom because there’s sunshine, and when the night is darkest you will find Allah near, the hereafter is far greater than this life, so don’t sweat the small stuff (i.e. everything in this life is small stuff), very soon Allah will compensate for you something that you will be super duper happy with. All of these are to do with hope. Now Allah diverts your attention toward what He has already done for you. Here in verse number 6, although the reference is directly to our Nabi (sal), have we not experienced some form of abandonment in our lives? Maybe someone dear to you died, maybe you left your family and friends and lived abroad with no one for support or comfort. In those times that you felt you have no one, who do you think was looking out for you? Dearest reader, know that it was Allah who was sheltering you all along. So what makes you think He will forsake you now?*
7. And He found you lost and guided you
At one point weren’t you also lost, wandering with no guidance (hidaya)? Has He not blessed you today with guidance?*
8. And He found you poor and made you self-sufficient.
At one point in your life you were dependant on others, maybe you didn’t even have money for food, but today has he not made you self sufficient? Who was it that brought you to where you are now?
Therefore, dear reader, count your blessings and be grateful to your Lord for all that He has already blessed you with*.
Now Allah tells us what we can do by action to help rid our sadness (instead of moping around feeling helpless):
9. Therefore, don’t treat the orphan with oppression or harshness
In other words, look after the orphans, be good to them and look after their needs. In a hadith our nabi (sal) was asked by a man what he could do to soften his hard heart. Our nabi-e-kareem (sal) replied “Be merciful with the orphan, pat his head and feed him from what you eat. This will soften your heart, and enable you to get what you need.” [At-Tabarani & As-Silsilah as-Sahihah] What is it that you want? Peace and contentment? Happiness? Freedom from oppression? Then go ahead, look after the orphan!*
10. And as for the one who requests for your assistance (and help) do not repel him;
Don’t ignore the ones who are in need of help. Always look to help those in distress, it could be the aunt you never get along with, or the cousin who gets on your nerves; but if they are in need and you know they are in need and you are in a position to help them then go out of your way to help them. Not for them, but because Allah told you so. By the action of helping others, you will find solace and comfort and also Allah will go out of His way to help you when you need Him the most*.
11. But as for the blessings and gifts (ni’mah) of your Lord, proclaim it.
In this state of sadness, make sure you verbalise all the good Allah has done for you. Most often in our counsel with friends and loved ones we go into negative mode and only talk or focus on the negatives, plunging us deeper into despair. Instead Allah commands you to verbalise (proclaim) all His favours and gifts that He has given you. This is the ultimate deed that will deflate the feeling of sorrow and despair*.
Alhamdulillahi Rabbil A’alameen!
*And Allah knows best.
Let’s recap the lessons in this surah:
- Stay hopeful for Allah’s help and good times are near
- Remind yourself of all the times Allah took you out of difficulty in the past
- Don’t just sit there moping around, but go out of your way to help those in need
- And finally, proclaim the praises and thanks to Allah
Alhamdulillahi ala kulli haal
(we praise and thank Allah in every situation)
Allah is al-Jabbar the one who restores all things to its original form and who fixes all that is broken. Will He then not mend my broken heart?
I have complete trust and faith in Him that He will not only restore but will grant me something better.. He is Kareem (the most generous) al-Latheef (the gentle and kind) and he is al-Wahhab (the one who loves to constantly give gifts) so why should I feel sad?
Our Allah is the most loving (wadood), the bestest friend forever (al Wali), the greatest protector (Mawla) and the one who immediately responds to the call of the Caller (Mujeeb).
I know He’s got my back
Allahul musta’aan! Allah is the one whom help is sought!
I rejoice because my Allah is the one who split the ocean for Moosa Alaihissalam, cooled the fire for Ibraheem Alaihissalam, let the sleepers sleep for over 300 years in the cave, sent down angels from the heavens to fight at Badr etc.. I rejoice because my Allah never forsakes those who seek Him.. I also thank Allah that not only has He taught us His most beautiful names, but He is letting me experience His attributes first-hand also and so I rejoice!
SubhanAllahi wabihamdihi SubhanAllahil Aleem
Allahumma salli ala sayyidina Muhammad wa’ala Aali Seyyiduna Muhammad kama sallaiytha Ala seyyiduna Ibraheema wa’ala Ale Seyyiduna Ibraheema innaka hamidum majeed…
Ya Rahman, Ya Raheem, Ya Kareem, Ya Latheef, Ya Fatthahu, Ya Mujeebu, Ya Allah! Please grant peace and contentment to all those suffering in silence across the globe!
Ya Fatthahu! Ease our paths and open new and better doors for us.
Ya Mujeeb! Fix and restore our broken hearts.
Ya Mawla! Take away our sorrows and ease our burdens. Make us depend on you and only you so we become unbreakable, because your handhold is unbreakable.
Ya Wali! May we find true happiness only through you so we become unconquerable, because you can never be conquered Ya Allah!
Ya Quddus! Ya Salam! Ya Noor! Illuminate our hearts with your light so we will never become empty, because you are the source light, source of peace and fulfilment. Your light never diminishes and your support never ends.
Ya Kareem, Ya Raheem Ya Allah! Make the broken hearted, the meek, the weak and the sad, inheritors of all that you have promised!
Barakallahu lee wa lakum fil quranil kareem
Wa nafa’nee wa iyyakum bil aayaati wa dhikril hakeem
Innahu jawaadun malikun barrun rabbur ra’oofur raheem
May Allah bless me and you through the guidance of this noble Quran
And may its teachings and remembrances benefit me and you
Truly Allah is the possessor of wealth, the sovereign, the all good, the one who has authority and power over us, the loving and infinitely-merciful.
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